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Welcome to family and friends:
We are gathered here today to celebrate one of life's greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to cherish the words which shall unite ____________ and ____________ in marriage. 

Opening:
____________ and ____________, in the days ahead of you, there will be times of difficulty and conflict. When you find yourselves in these situations, I ask you to reflect on this marriage advice: 

Let your love be stronger than your anger.
Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break.
Look for the best in your beloved rather than the worst.
Confide in your partner and ask for help when you need it.
Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship.
Give your spouse the same courtesies and kindnesses you bestow on your friends.
Say "I love you" every day.
You may wish to add a reading or song here. 

Vows:
____________ and ____________, I remind you that marriage is a precious gift; a lifelong dedication to love and a daily challenge to love one another more fully and more freely. 

With this understanding, do you ____________, take ____________ to be your beloved wife?
Do you promise to be a tender, faithful husband?
Do you promise to love and cherish her, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, for better for worse, and keep yourself only unto her?

With this understanding, do you ____________, take ____________ to be your beloved husband?
Do you promise to be a tender, faithful wife?
Do you promise to love and cherish him, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, for better for worse, and keep yourself only unto him? 
You may wish to add a reading or song here.


Rings:
____________ and ____________ have chosen rings as outward symbols of the commitment they make today. 

From earliest times, the ring has been a symbol of wedded love. An unbroken and never-ending circle symbolizes a commitment to love that is also never ending. 

____________, take the ring which you have selected, place it on ____________'s finger, and say to her these words.
This ring, a gift for you, symbolizes my desire that you be my wife from this day forward. 

____________, take the ring which you have selected, place it on ____________'s finger, and say to him these words.
This ring, a gift for you, symbolizes my desire that you be my wife from this day forward. 

Let these rings serve not as locks binding you together, but as keys, unlocking the secrets of your hearts for each other to know, and thus bringing you closer together forever. 

Unity Candle (Optional)
This candle you are about to light is a candle of Marriage. Its fire is magical because it represents the light of two people in love. 

This candle before you is a candle of Commitment because it takes two people working together to keep it aflame. 

This candle is also a candle of Unity because both must come together, giving a spark of themselves, to create the new light. 

Would you both now light the candle? 

As you light this candle today, may the brightness of the flame shine throughout your lives. May it give you courage and reassurance in darkness. Warmth and safety in the cold. And strength and joy in your bodies, minds and spirits. May your union be forever blessed.

Closing:
May the sun bring you new energy by day.
May the moon softly restore you by night. 
May the rain wash away your worries.
And may you live the days of your lives in peace, love, and happiness.

Pronouncement:
____________ and ____________, having witnessed your vows for marriage with all who are assembled here, and by the authority vested in me, I announce with great joy that you are husband and wife. 

Kiss:
You may seal your vows with a kiss. 

Presentation:
Ladies and gentlemen, it is my honor to present to you, for the first time as husband and wife: ____________ and ____________ 

Number 2


Welcome to family and friends:
We are gathered here today to take part in the most time honored celebration of the human family, uniting a man and a woman in marriage.  ____________ and ____________ have come to witness before us, telling of their love for each other. We remember theirs is a love whose source is the affection of those who loved them into being.

Opening:
You have know each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way.

All those conversations were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks -- all those sentences that began with "When we're married" and continued with "I will and you will and we will" -- those late night talks that included "someday" and "somehow" and "maybe" -- and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart.

All those common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, "you know all those things we've promised and hoped and dreamed -- well, I meant it all, every word."

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another -- acquaintance, friend, companion, and even teacher. Now you shall say a few words that take you across the threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this is my husband, this is my wife.

Reading (Optional):

The Art of a Good Marriage by Wilferd Arlan Peterson
The little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands, It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day. It is never going to bed angry. It is never taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.

It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.

It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding rooms for the things of spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

Vows:
We remind ____________ and ____________ that they are performing an act of complete faith, each in the other; that the heart of their marriage will be the relationship they create. In a world where faith often falls short of expectation, it is a tribute to these two who now join hands and hearts in perfect faith.
 
__________, will you receive ______________ as your wife? Will you pledge to her your love, faith and tenderness, cherishing her with a husband's loyalty and devotion?

Groom: "I will."

__________, will you receive ______________ as your husband? Will you pledge to him your love, faith and tenderness, cherishing him with a wife's loyalty and devotion?

Bride: "I will."

Rings:
_________ and __________, receive each other from your fathers and mothers, who give you into each other's keeping, by saying now, each to the other, words which will tell of your love.

The wedding ring is a symbol of unity, a circle unbroken, without beginning or end. And today __________ and ___________ give and receive these rings as demonstrations of their vows to make their lives one, to work at all times to create a life that is whole and unbroken, and to love each other without end.

____________, take the ring which you have selected, place it on ____________'s finger, and say to her these words.
This ring, a gift for you, symbolizes my desire that you be my wife from this day forward. 

____________, take the ring and as you place it on ____________'s finger, please state your pledge to her repeating these word:
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"I begin my life with you today knowing that we have developed a trust and commitment that is strong enough to last through good times and bad. With this ring, I offer you my hand, my heart, and my soul as I know they will be safe with you."

____________, take the ring and as you place it on ____________'s finger, please state your pledge to him repeating these word:
.
"I begin my life with you today knowing that we have developed a trust and commitment that is strong enough to last through good times and bad. With this ring, I offer you my hand, my heart, and my soul as I know they will be safe with you."

Reading (Optional)
Today is a day you will always remember -- the greatest in anyone's life. You'll start off the day just two people in love and end it as husband and wife. It's a brand new beginning, the start of a journey, with moments to cherish and treasure. And although there'll be times you both disagree, these will surely be outweighed by pleasure.

You'll have heard many words of advice in the past, when the secrets of marriage were spoken, but now you know that the answers lie hidden inside, where the bond of true love lies unbroken. So live happy forever as lovers and friends, it's the dawn of a new life for you, as you stand there together with love in your eyes from the moment you whisper, "I do." And with luck, all your hopes, and your dreams can be real, may success find its way to your hearts. Tomorrow can bring you the greatest of joys, but today is the day it all starts.

Prayer for the Bride and Groom (Optional):
Eternal God, without your grace no promise is sure. Strengthen ____________ and ___________ with patience, kindness, gentleness, and all the other gifts you so abundantly impart, that they may fulfill the vows they have made this day. Keep them faithful to each other and to you. Fill them by your word and serve you all of their days. Amen.

Pronouncement:
____________ and ____________, as a collection of words, this ceremony would count for little, were it not for the love and commitment you have pledged to one another. Your vows may have been spoken in minutes, but your promises to each other will last a lifetime. Having witnessed your vows for marriage with all who are assembled here, and by the authority vested in me, I announce with great joy that you are husband and wife. 

Kiss:
You may kiss your bride. 

Presentation:
It gives me great pleasure to present to you, for the first time as husband and wife, Mr. and Mrs.____________ .

Number 3


Officiant: Welcome friends and family. We are here today to celebrate the wedding of [bride’s name] and [groom’s name]. We are here to share in their commitment to one another, to offer our love and support to this union, and to allow [bride’s name] and [groom’s name] to start their married life together surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them.

[Bride’s name] and [groom’s name] would like to thank you for being here today and ask for your blessing, encouragement, and lifelong support, for their decision to be married.

Officiant: No ceremony can create your marriage; only you can do that – through love and patience; through dedication and perseverance; through talking and listening, helping and supporting and believing in each other; through tenderness and laughter; through learning to forgive, learning to appreciate your differences, and by learning to make the important things matter, and to let go of the rest. What this ceremony can do is affirm the love you have for one another in the presence of your friends and family.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.

For after today you shall say to the world – This is my husband. This is my wife.

Officiant: Two people in love do not live in isolation. We, their community of friends and family, have a responsibility to this couple. With our care, respect, and love, we can support their marriage and the new family they are creating today.

Officiant: Will you, [bride’s name] and [groom’s name]’s friends and family, surround them in love, offer them the joys of your friendship, and your support in their marriage? If so, respond with we will.

All: We will

Officiant: It is now time for bride and groom to make a commitment to one another.

Officiant: Who gives [bride's name] to be married to [groom's name]?

Special loved one: I do.

Officiant: [Bride’s name] and [Groom’s name], please face each other and join hands.

Officiant: [Bride’s name], do you take [groom’s name] to be your wedded husband? To love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health, so long as you both shall live?

Bride: I do.

Officiant: [Groom’s name], do you take [bride’s name] to be your wedded wife? To love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health, so long as you both shall live?

Groom: I do.

Officiant: [Bride’s name], please place this ring on [groom’s name]‘s finger and repeat after me. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.

Bride: I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.

Officiant: [Groom’s name], please place this ring on [bride’s name]‘s finger and repeat after me. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.

Groom: I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.

Officiant: Let these rings be a symbol of the never-ending love you have promised to one another.

Officiant: By the power of your love and commitment, and the power vested in me, I now pronounce you husband and wife! You may now kiss the bride!

Officiant: I present to you Mr. and Mrs. [insert name]